do you ever listen to hozier and have the urge to run away from home for never to be seen again, only to live in a small cottage in the woods somewhere in a north-european country
My boss doesn’t take me seriously because I’m the youngest in the office by a decade and spend most of my time making his life hell (unrelated problems).
Yesterday he asked me to help him with a problem with a program we use but wasn’t actually listening to me when I tried to help, so it wasn’t working. He asked who the expert on this program was in our office and I told him it was me. He asked who the expert was within the organisation and I told him it was me. He sent me out of his office saying he would call IT to fix it. So I very patiently went back to my desk, where my phone rang a minute later, with IT asking me to help someone who had a problem with the program.
The sheer unadulterated joy I felt making direct eye contact with my manager through the glass wall of his office whilst I answered his phone call will fuel me for WEEKS.
i cannot stand this i keep seeing op’s face like this in my mind
oh also good: when I was working there I broke my knee and left for sex weeks and while I was gone I dyed my hair blue and then realized I absolutely couldn’t have blue hair working at cracker barrel so I bought a wig and it was So Long and I came back and everyone was like “wow your hair really grew” and then I just wore a wig the rest of the time I worked there.
It was like. 3 years of “growth” vdksnvlsk
For reference, this was my hair and below is the wig I wore and ppl were really like wow I guess that’s what 6 weeks does for ya
this isn’t abt uwu feminine women can be butch or me as a bi woman trying to undermine lesbians in any way. it’s abt the lack of consideration for women who subvert or reject femininity without cutting their hair. i have seen here n on like twitter (gag) convos about how you can’t “really” be butch unless you cut your hair.
the idea that you HAVE to cut your hair to be butch is an extremely white one. butches of color don’t have to divorce themselves from their culture or the importance of their hair to their personhood in order to b validly butch.
the idea that long hair = womanly/feminine is very white. there are so many cultures of color where long hair is not gendered. there are cultural and religious traditions where cutting hair is not common, if not outright discouraged. there are hairstyles that are revered or culturally important that wouldn’t be possible with short hair. there’s a litany of meaningfulness in hair. everyone has different relationships with their hair, and that’s an individual, personal relationship that cannot be defined by anyone else.
like the majority of Black lesbians i know, especially those who ID as butch or studs, don’t have short hair. braids, locs, fros, slicked back ponytails, etc. are very common. and i would truly pity the fool who tried to tell them they aren’t being properly butch.
like… ppl rlly need to be mindful of the cultural implications of what they consider to be “universal” or essential attributes to an identity. race and culture are always intertwined with other identities. if you’re only looking at a white perspective, you are leaving so many ppl out.
Here are some wonderful long-haired butch lesbians.
